IMPERFECT – THE NEW COOL!

We all have come across people who do and want everything perfect. They just wouldn’t compromise on it. These are the typical “perfectionists” we know. 

Most of us are always on our toes to be the best version of ourselves. We try and give everything that we do, our best shot. The intention to be “Perfect” is always there. This nature of working hard and striving towards betterment could take us places and is one of the most important traits one must possess to achieve success. 

However, there is a thin line of difference between trying to be perfect and being a perfectionist. We’ll know what it is in just a bit.

Did you know being a “perfectionist” could cause one more harm than good?

Well, now you know. 

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be good in everything we do, but we should not let that thought and attitude overpower us. When perfection becomes an obsession there’s barely any peace of mind.

Here are a few ways how perfectionism could derail our progress:

  • Perfectionists are hung up about having and doing everything right because they fear the disappointment making a mistake could cause them and others. They fear being judged. 

Just imagine how much pressure the person would take onto themselves trying to be perfect each time! Also, despite struggling so much, they are not always satisfied with the outcome. 

  • It could make us lazier and cause us to procrastinate more often. How many times did you not even start doing your favorite things like drawing a picture or reading your favorite book because you wanted to do it “properly” or “leisurely” and you thought you didn’t have time? I’m sure that the “leisure” never came till date. (no offense though…we’re all sailing in the same boat!! :P)

This means, we simply put off things for later in name of perfection and we all know what happens after that.

  • It stops us from learning and growing because we don’t make mistakes. In our hustle to do everything right, we only run around things that we can do properly or tasks that we are well acquainted with. And how about things we don’t know much about? A perfectionist would not even take up doing the task if they can’t do it perfectly hence ruling out the chance to learn new skills. Now that’s a real loss because we grow only when we learn.
  • Perfectionism could cost us the loss of so much more work. You would have observed that the time a person invests in doing one task perfectly could have easily helped us accomplish many more tasks implying that it could bring down our productivity drastically. In the long run, it could cause people to overlook our efforts because the quantity of work we accomplish is still less while we are trying to be perfect.

But how could we learn to not be a perfectionist?

  • Identify how much unnecessary stress the pressure of being perfect brings with it. Think of the last time you truly enjoyed the process of doing something. You would only see the panic and tension the majority of times and on a deeper thought, you would also realize that all that mental chaos was not even worth the outcome. Then why the hustle!? 

Perfectionism takes away the joy of the moment with it in the toil to do the thing correctly. After all, we all live only once and we deserve to live that one life happily. So, don’t beat yourself so much about it and let go of all the turmoil.

  • Many a time, fear is the base of perfectionism. Try and understand that fear. Is it a fear of disappointment? Look at that disappointment as an opportunity to learn something new. Who knows? Maybe you’d discover something new about yourself by making that one mistake! There’s no fun in being our old usual self always.

Is it a fear of judgment? Then you need to know that people won’t even pay attention to the mistake until you tell them about it unless it’s really big or if it impacts the outcome. So chill. We all are so consumed in our routine lives that we barely have any time even to look into the other aspects of it let alone noticing small flaws of someone else’s work.

  • Try doing things by putting in less effort. You would notice, that even when your work is not that perfect, it would still do the job and in fact you might even get appreciated for it. So why waste so much energy on one task when you can do 3 more tasks with the same effort? Saving time and energy you know! 🙂 
  • Also, research has proven that perfectionism could cause chronic stress disorders in the long run. 

Clearly, insisting a little too much on perfection is something we all don’t want to do. Ultimately, it’s the little things and the small happy moments of life that make it so much more beautiful and cherished…don’t let the run for perfectionism ruin that. 

There’s joy in embracing our flaws and owning our mistakes! 

Imperfect is the new cool!

This was my take on how perfectionism could affect our lives. I hope you liked it.

Thank you so much for reading through it and I’ll see you next week with another article.

Until then…Tooldes!!

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6 Comments

  • Shwetha

    Very nicely written Hasitha . Most of the time its women than men. There are many mother’s who strive to be perfect being a perfect daughter,wife, daughter in law,hostess and mother juggling different things hiding tears and pain expecting nothing or a small token of appreciation.

    • Hasita Ivaturi

      Very True… I cannot agree more! It’s so essential to tell them and help them identify that they are important too and they need to take care of themselves! I’m so happy you like it! Thank you so much for sharing your view, Akka!!

  • Jwala Pranati Mulugu

    Very well written Hasitha . Though nowadays we r spending our time at home still the fear of being judged and the devil of perfectionism is intact …totally connected to the article .Keep up the gud work .
    Best wishes .

    • Hasita Ivaturi

      Thank you so much Pranati! It’s a cycle where we strive continuously for everything to be perfect all the time and ultimately lose ourselves in the process. I’m so glad you resonate with these thoughts and understand it’s importance. It surely keeps me going to keep writing things like this 🙂

  • Diksha

    Nicely written H! Always striving for absolute perfection is toxic if you think about it. Your article brings this out very organically. Keep up the good work