EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Intelligence. A very common word that we come across in our daily lives. “Oh! That guy is really intelligent.” “It’s her brain that got her the job!”, “Well, I don’t think he has the mind for it.”  Such kinds of phrases are something we hear now and then. But what are people referring to when they use words like “intelligent”, “brain” or “mind”? Is it an entity? A skill? A quality? Or something else? 

It could mean different things in different situations.  

But let’s try and define intelligence first!

There are so many parameters that bind themselves with intelligence like logical reasoning, problem-solving, analytical thinking, etc., but if we were to explain intelligence in simple words we could say “Intelligence is the ability to acquire or learn information or skills and be able to apply that knowledge effectively at the time of need.”

So if a person can learn something quickly and uses that know-how properly in practical life, he can be called intelligent. But this way of looking at intelligence largely focuses on life in a very rational sense. Not all things can be approached or be solved with this perspective. 

And that is what brings in the need to learn about emotional intelligence. 

Emotions are what make us humane. They help us internalize all experiences more vividly in our lives. 

There are so many kinds of emotions that we experience in different situations and sometimes we just get a little too carried away by them. So much so that we fail to see the reality of the situations. 

This could get us in real trouble if not taken care of and that’s what makes it even more essential to learn about emotions. 

Emotional Intelligence (otherwise known as emotional quotient or EQ) is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict.”

There are so many benefits of learning to identify and manage our emotions which include, better and more informed decision making, putting thoughts and ideas into action, effectively managing stress, and maintaining relationships more efficiently. Some dimensions to emotional intelligence are:

  • Perceiving emotions: The ability to identify and tell apart between various emotions and how they influence our being.
  • Relating Emotions and Cognition: Using and applying emotions to cognitive factors like reasoning, logical thinking, or problem-solving. 
  • Understanding the causes and roots of different emotions and why we feel a certain way in different situations.
  • Effectively handling those emotions. Preventing, reducing, or modifying our own or others’ emotions based on the circumstances.

Emotional intelligence finds itself based on 4 major factors: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management.

  1. Self-Awareness: When you can recognize your reactions in different scenarios and how it influences your thought process, your ability to pin down your strengths and weaknesses is called as self-awareness. It is one of the most important skills to develop and can work wonders on how we progress after becoming aware and working on ourselves.
  2. Self-Management: Having control over our impulses and emotions, tackling them in a way that is not damaging to our mental health, being able to handle and adapt to change easily defines the skill called self-management. Self-management plays a vital role in our overall well-being because different circumstances demand differently of us and is not being able to keep up with them might take a toll on our mental health.
  3. Social-Awareness: Social awareness means being more observant of our surroundings and the people around us and modifying our behavior according to it. It refers to developing and showcasing behaviors like empathy, mutual support, understanding the dynamics of a group, and being respectful of others’ needs and emotional spaces in a social setting.
  4. Relationship Management: The know-how of creating and maintaining amicable relations, being able to work comfortably in a group setting, communicating properly, and managing conflicts effectively. 

We as human beings can almost not survive without social interaction and hence it is inevitable for us to learn at least some if not all of these skills. 

There are so many small activities or practices one could follow to cultivate or get better at these skills. Journalingassertive communication, anger management, practicing gratitude as a part of daily routine, trying to develop patience and resilience are a few to name.

(Our blog has different articles that explain in detail how one can cultivate these skills easily in their life. I’ve linked those articles in this post as well, you might like to check them out!)

All successful people will tell you that these skills or virtues have played an equal role if not more than their technical or field expertise in their growth and success.

Isn’t that proof enough to explain how important factors like these are?

It’s never too late to learn anything that can better the quality of our lives and this could be one of them!!

That’s all I have to say for this week and I hope you find this useful in some way or the other.

Thank you so much for reading through this and do share this with anyone who you might think can benefit from this!

I’ll see you next Sunday with another article.

Until then…Toodles!!

Love,

Hasita : )

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